AHHH FIRST PODCAST EPISODE! Who am I?! This is crazy, never thought I’d actually start this dang podcast but I'm very happy that we have finally arrived. So I want to start by giving you the low down of who this B even is. ME, it’s just me. I’m from South Dakota, wife & I’ve got two crazy kids. I have an 8 year old and an almost 3 year old, she turns 3 in a couple weeks and it sure makes me feel old. But I recently left my job in the office trading it for chaos at home. You know I’ve worked in a daycare, managed operations and done office coordination and found that I definitely thrive on structure & routine. But I've always just wanted to be home with my children of course.
Less than a year ago I started working in network marketing with health & fitness. I fell in love with the community and the fact that taking care of myself was my #1 priority. So working out, moving my body every day, doing personal development (i.e. listening to awesome podcasts like this) and eating good foods, fueling my body. But working through that business opened a lot of doors for me to help me find me and sparked new passions. I found that I love graphic design, which is crazy to me. That's never been something that I thought I would be doing. Because I got pregnant at 17 but before that I was headed to college for criminal justice, as in I wanted to be a cop or a detective. Look at me now, surviving mom life.
Without starting in network marketing I definitely wouldn’t be where I am with staying home, it really helped opened my eyes to break the box that society puts you in, you know? which, there isn’t a right and a wrong path to follow, it’s the path that you make and that you WANT for yourself. Because my path has surely been all over the place - with getting pregnant so young, I had just graduated high school and my now husband still had his whole senior year to complete when we got pregnant cause he is a year younger than me. We had a rough road to where we are now, with too many breakups to count in the beginning. We bought our first home as teenagers' when we were 18/19, and anywho we finally got our shit together. Then we had another baby, got engaged & actually got married in secret during our second pregnancy. It just made a lot made more sense for us to be legally married so we ran to the courthouse over our lunch break one day, I know it was super fancy. But we still wanted all the hype and excitement of planning our wedding. But our wedding date came and we had to reschedule, we had alot of chaos going on in our life, which I know, there's always chaos. But it made most sense, we postponed it to June 2020. And of course you know what happened in 2020. So we postponed again and it got put on the back burner, and technically we're coming up on our 4 year wedding anniversary. So it's all out now, I call him my husband, we both have rings, I finally changed my name 3 years into being married. So at this point, I don't know, maybe we'll just have a 5 year party? Either or, the traditional wedding wasn’t even our jam. Point being - YOU CAN BREAK THE MOLD. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should and shouldn’t be living. You don't have to do all of the things in order.
Alright, I got way side tracked. Back to surviving mom life, so my husband and I made the choice for me to stay home with the kids, I left my job. It is such an amazing opportunity, I really do love it, I'll say that first. But I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t thought about going back to work at least a few times. I'm so surprised to find so much struggle staying home full time with SO much self doubt, loss of purpose, feeling worthless and just so much guilt of not providing as much financially. I definitely went into what I found to be SAHM depression. And it's something nobody warned me about! I didn't know that so many people struggle with that and it's such a big thing. And it’s hard because you don’t feel like you’re allowed to have these feelings or talk about it because you’ve got this “dream job”. So the struggle is silent, but if this is something you relate to - know that you can love and appreciate this job but still feel all these emotions. Cause it's freaking hard, and it never ends, YOUR EMOTIONS ARE VALID!! We’ll dive deeper into SAHM depression in another episode coming up for those of you that jive with that.
Oof, ok, I feel like I'm spilling a lot of tea. Am I supposed to be sharing this much on this first episode? JK, yes ;) I want to share all the things I feel have led me to start this podcast. I want to share the tips and ideas I’ve found to help survive through the chaos. And I want you to get to know me to start off knowing that whatever support you need, whatever struggles you’re going through, it’s valid. And you can find that support. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows, we all go through struggles before we get to where we want to be.
So if you’re any kind of mama surviving through the chaos, I want you to join me in our Surviving Mama’s Club on Facebook! If you’re like me & crave connection and community, that is exactly what this is for. Cause I want to get to know you, who are you listening to this podcast?! How did you find me? You can head over to rebeccamaher.com/club, which I’ll link in the show notes below. Otherwise we’ll be chatting weekly here on the podcast with ideas and tips to come so we can live out our best dang lives.
But thank you SO much for joining me on this journey, I can’t wait to see you inside the Facebook Club for us to connect and be sure to share this with a friend so coming up we can reach all the mama’s out there surviving!