I’m very much a YOLO type of person, since we’re only going to have these moments in life once, might as well live it how we want to live it, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Hence why I just do whatever the heck I want to do. Start a podcast, start a blog, share my weight loss journey, start a business or two or three.
Ya know? Why should we have to do or not things just because someone else or society tells us? Give me an eye roll if you have ever worried about what someone ELSE is going to think before you’ve said or done something? If you didn’t roll your eyes, you’re lying. Or you’re the most awesome human and we need to be best friends.
We always think about what someone ELSE is going to say. Which sucks, we live in a world of constant judgement of PEOPLE THAT DON’T MATTER. Who gives a flick what anyone else thinks about your life. Cause you know what, we only get one life here. We might as well do the things we want to do, the things that make us feel good.
A few years ago I grabbed my mail and had gotten a card out of the blue from my sister that included a Pura Vida bracelet. If you haven’t heard of these - Pura Vida translates to pure life in Spanish, but it’s more a celebration of the simple things in life. So the bracelets are a reminder to celebrate and cherish those simple moments. But that random tiny little gift just made my whole day, my whole week! I challenge you to make someone else’s day out of the blue. Cause YOLO. Grab a Pura Vida bracelet for yourself, yo friends and yo family for that daily reminder to live your life how you want to live it. They have a TON of different ones that are way cute. I’ll put a link in the show notes - aaaaand you can use code REBECCAMAHER20 to get 20% off your order! I wanna see watcha got, so be sure to tag me on your social media showing off your reminders to cherish the simple things!
And let’s stop worrying about what other people are going to think and do the things we want. Let’s find a way to live a life that makes us proud.
You’re probably thinking ok stop yapping and let’s talk about how to find motivation so we can build these lives that we’re proud of. We are constantly catering to these little humans, we deserve to do something that we want to work on.
Welp, I’ve got some news for you. YOU DON’T FIND MOTIVATION, YOU MAKE IT! Motivation comes from DISCIPLINE AND KNOWING YOUR WHY.
So let’s find our why. Make those dang goals in life, big or small & no matter what they are. But you have to ask yourself “why do I want to reach these goals?” Whether that’s mom goals, business goals, house goals, health goals, etc etc.
What goals are you going after, that’s where we have to start, defining our goal. Everyone asks me how I always have the motivation to workout, which I don’t. Soooo many days I’m like nah, working out does not sound fun. But I know WHY I set my goal to get in daily movement. It makes me feel good! Initially it was a journey of losing weight, I wanted to feel confident in my body and be active with my kids. Have the energy to run around with them & jump on the trampoline.
But with every goal your why will change as you change & progress. Now I workout every day for my mental health. It boosts my mood, makes me not feel so crappy, it still gives me that energy boost to keep up with my kids, it’s a stress reliever to work out that SAHM life anxiety.
But think about anyone who sets a goal of “I want to lose weight”. THAT’S GREAT! But why? Saying “I want to get skinny” probably won’t be a strong enough driver for most people to show up every dang day.
Once you define your goal, you have to go deep to find your why. Ask yourself why then keep asking yourself why with each response until you get to the bottom. What happens when you reach your goal? How will life be different? How will you be different?
Find that why that speaks to your core, then you get to then make a game plan. HOW are you going to reach that goal? This is where your discipline kicks in. Your why drives your discipline. When you have a game plan, you know exactly what you need to do to reach your goal.
Asking yourself the why will get you focused on your goal, and knowing the how keeps you disciplined to get there.
This can be applied to anything. Goals are goals, no matter how simple & small. You have a goal to clean your kitchen? Great, WHY do you want to clean your kitchen? Then what’s your game plan to get it done to reach that goal, where do you start? I literally just did this today after letting all the junk on my counter and the dishes in my sink pile too high. Prime time. But I got it done, because it made me feel so dang good. Declutter the kitchen, declutter my mind. Who doesn’t love that clean kitchen satisfaction?
But you know? Go after that dream job, go after that new home routine, go after starting that business, go after joining that knitting club, go after doing something you want to do for YOUR life. Regardless of what anyone else might think of you going for it.
If you want to join other like minded - judgement free mama’s, we’ll be chatting about goals we’re going after this week in the Surviving Mama Club on Facebook! Go to rebeccamaher.com/club or follow the link in the show notes to join us!